"you don't understand me..."

My sun broke my heart this week using this phrase. "you don't understand me!" he was mad and crying and agressive and he was right. I sould'nt understand him!

When he finnally fell asleep I sat outside on the porch drinking my tea and relaxing. Then I saw that the blue flower that I saw this morning has wilted... And I was so sad. It's a small thing but at that exact moment it felt that no wonder I am such a lousy mum- I can't even keep one flower alive!

The next morning, during my morning coffee just before waking up the kids, I saw the flower was blooming. And then I got it. It blooms in the morning and closes by sunset.

And I finally understood.

I don't need to understand everything my boy does, says or goes through. Especially when he doesn't understand it himself most og the times. I just need to be there for him. I don't need to get insulted or upset- I need to take a deep breathe and be there for him. Even if I don't completely understand.

So I finished my coffee, wattered the plant and went to wake up my kid with a HUGE hug.