The day I stopped yelling.

I've been to so many lectures and courses of different parent instuctors I can teach. I've read so many articles about what not to do or say I can interview on the subject.

Although I did take some good advice from here and there and tried it- I've learned the most important thing of all- You can't change others you can only change yourself.

each consolter says the same main thing- change the way you takl, react and act- and the change will come.

And it does!

I've listened and tried but only when it really sunk in- that I must do things differently- that is when things actually started to change.

I've decided that I'm not going to yell anymore. No matter how mad, tired, exhausted or frustrated I am- I will listen and be there and talk and the maximum will be raising my voice. Buy no more yelling.

This past week I have been there. I have actually listened to everything and did it- even if I didn't fell lik it or did'nt agree.

When they told me to get of the phone I did, whe they called me to come I came. When they talked I listened and I took time to play with them.

When the fought I talked it out, and when they cried- I gave them to options to choose from.

And I didn't loose my temper even once. I didn't even need to yell.

No it wasn't easy. Yes there were times I wanted to scream.

Bu i knew it then and I know it now- my change made a change. When they got mummy time, when they got attention, when they didn't receive the same reactions- they changed as well.

It's only the begginning and I know it won't be easy but it will be easier.

One day it won't be a change any more- it will be our normal reality.